Letter to Her Sister’s Therapist Poignantly Chronicals a Twin’s Grieving and Pain Much to my surprise, I received a letter from a deceased client’s twin, expressing the constant pain of living these last two years without her sister. The client heself had expressed sadness that her twin was not a fan of therapy. Therapy is [...]
Healing Life Tragedies requires Stalwart Resilience This world is putting us all to the test. If tragedy is not striking us directly, then relatives, friends and those we see on the nightly news remind us that “but, for the Grace of God, go I.” Or perhaps our struggles are just not in the news, but [...]
When in Doubt, Go Back to Basics The last post explored how anger disrupts the process in both emotional and physical healing. I promised actual techniques to help remedy anger that is disruptive. In searching through my own material gathered over the years and researching other literature, the most extensive and successful strategies that I [...]
Acceptance Bridges Loss To Letting Go Following the experience of loss, progressing to moving on with life is a bumpy road with many in between steps hovering over acceptance before settling into letting go. Self-esteem is usually deeply scarred by loss, whether the loss is one’s own abilities (an injury or medical condition), a loved [...]
“What Was I Thinking?” Self-esteem can take a big hit if we are dissatisfied with our current lives and look back with disdain on early decision-making. Hindsight is so easy that we forget we made the best choices we could for that time. We never get out of bed thinking “I’m going to make the [...]
Continuing From The Last Post In the last post, a client writes about finally being free of her damaging behaviors that allowed a man to repeatedly hurt her. In this post she explains how she changed her behavior patterns for the good. She definitely will benefit from not being a slave to a person who [...]
Words From A Believer Time is usually necessary to integrate change, especially in self-esteem. My client deployed overseas after she had sought therapy for a number of sessions. She had been feeling desperate about relationships not working out and finding herself being used. However, she was afraid of letting relationships go because of her fears [...]
Bouncing Back After Life’s Lemons Self-esteem permeates all we do. If it is low, it definitely impairs resilience and stress management skills, in addition to most other aspects of our lives. When trauma or bad events hit, it is difficult not to get inundated with thoughts about failures and perceived inadequacies. Coping with the worst [...]
Healing Is Complicated Forgiveness adds another difficult layer in the process of applying positive thinking to overcome abuse, a particularly entrenched problem of many individuals’ personal growth process. Our culture’s Christian heritage has inserted forgiveness as a necessary step in personal development. A reader points out that forgiveness has muddied the water considerably in his/her [...]
Applying Affirmations To No Avail! “How do I use positive thoughts to change my emotions when I don’t believe the thoughts? I try changing my thoughts, but I can’t believe affirmations that others say I should use. They just don’t seem true.” These are the most frequent concerns from the layman who is attempting to [...]
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