Anger Can Destroy Your Quality of Life
When the rage hits, it can seem like you are being swallowed by it! As soon as you can begin to think straight, you know that you need to regain control.
Anger has a way of taking over your life, your thoughts, your well-being–if you let it. The worst time is when you truly feel wronged, when something happens that would make anyone loose their cool, or so you say to ease your pain. Now is the time to take good “selfish” steps to take care of you by breaking the pattern of anger, regaining emotional control, and stopping obsessive preoccupation with what happened.
Yet, it probably seems beyond your ability to gain control in the midst of the storm. This is the time to use all your power to halt negative, replay of events, and turn your energies into saving yourself, in spite of the unfairness, unbelievable events that have stopped you in your tracks!
Regaining Control Takes Relentless Attention to Your Thoughts
Those of us who are cognitive-behavioral therapists rely on you rediscovering the power of your thinking, and we work to focus you on “coming to your senses,” quite literally. Somewhere in your inner wisdom, you know the rage offers no solace, no answer. The quicker you can move from the incessant preoccupation with the circumstance of your rage, the quicker you can move from problem to solution. Take steps to begin using mind body techniques and controlling tension. Changing thoughts will require you to be in a mindfulness state; relaxation is a critical step in the process.
Time is on your side; eventually, the obviously destructive nature of rage becomes apparent. It is then that you can work on developing a plan for managing anger and turning it into a more productive endeavor. The starting place is positive thinking!
The Energy of Anger
Numerous well-known psychologists, counselors and physicians have presented dialogues focusing on emotional healing as the path to health. The “mind body” approach to using your inner wisdom has much proven information to encourage you to take charge of your health and quality of life
Dr. John Rifken, a Boulder, Colorado psychologist, offers a different take on using the energy of anger to heal. He points out that anger’s energy can be used to transform your life and empower you. Granted, it will be necessary for you to get past the rage when it is consuming you and into a place that you can logically talk to yourself. Using cold logic on yourself is important in stopping the rage from taking over.
Dr. Christiane Northrup has long been a voice for womens’ health; however, the overall “mind body” information she provides is easily applicable to both men and women. The answer to health is recognizing that thoughts and emotions impact your health.
If thoughts and emotions are positive, their effect on the body’s overall health and immune system is positive. Conversely, negative thoughts and emotions disrupt healthy body functioning. You influence your body’s functioning by changing negative thoughts to positive. Granted, the process is more complex; however beginning with awareness and stress relief techniques get the process started. See our last post for specific techniques to help you on your way.
Waste No Time
Call upon your inner wisdom; engage yourself in deciding your most effective plan of action. Spend time and energy in learning what are the triggers and negative thoughts that lead you off track, back into rage, and useless rehashing of the anger situation.
Begin with awareness of negative thoughts by writing them down for a base-line assessment–don’t let your assessment go on too long. Once you have your triggers and negative thoughts, replace them with a list of positive affirmations and force yourself to use your positive thoughts!
The least you need to know:
1. Repeating rage thoughts leads to no good.
2. You can make a change, do it now.
Your mission, should you choose to accept, requires:
1. That you to strictly forbid yourself to think negatively.
2. That you learn positive thought to replace the negative.
3. That you learn stress relief skills from last post.
